To really understand what drives the other and how you may influence each other unconsciously can take away so much of the frustration, bitterness, guilt en blame out of the relationship. We are all unique beings. And that's not always easy, because we see and experience the world in different ways. When things don't work out the way we hoped or expected, we feel frustration, bitterness, anger and dissapointment. So we try to find the reason and blame or shame the other or ourselves. This is not the way. It is about seeing where the other comes from, what drives them in life and also what drives you a person. Things you maybe took for granted, but never really were. Understand the other, yourself and your relationship can give peace, rest, freedom and acceptation. So your relationship can breathe again.